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How to Write Your Birth Story


For those wanting to share their freebirth story for the book, or you just want to write your story for yourself - here are some tips to get you started!


In the process of preparing for my own births and supporting other women’s births, I have learned the value of birth stories.


They inspire. They educate. They empower. They warn. They encourage. They help shed light on this transformative, natural, emotional process and help take away the stigma around birth. They help people to share different ways of approaching birth, in ways that expecting families may not have thought of.


But most of all, they tell a love story. A beautiful, powerful dance between a family welcoming their baby into the world.

So...how do you go about writing your birth story? It might be a lot to write, and both time and mental energy are a precious commodity in those first weeks and months postpartum. Here are some helpful tips for getting that birth story out of your head and onto paper!


1. PREPARE YOUR MIND TO REVISIT YOUR BIRTH Give yourself a quiet evening or morning to relax and reflect. If you can, send the kids to the park with your partner or draw yourself a hot bath after they go to bed. Light candles, play music...do whatever your best version of self-care looks like. Treat yourself gently. Whether your birth was peaceful and smooth or completely off-course, re-visiting your birth will likely bring up some strong emotions. Let yourself feel tender, joyful, angry, nervous, relieved, teary, unsure, elated...allow those feelings to wash over you. But don't schedule anything pressing afterwards; you may need some space to come back to real life. And most importantly...don't stress about this! Don't strive to make it perfect. Don't get flustered if you can't remember every detail. Our brains are biologically hardwired to forget our labors, in order to keep the species going! Write down what you can.


2. USE YOUR SENSES TO TAKE YOU BACK Vision, hearing, smelling, touch, and taste all likely played a role in your birth. Did you light candles, lower the lights, or watch a movie? Turn on your labor playlist if you had one. Did you use herbs or essential oils? Bring them out, breathe them in. (Scent has a powerful tie to memory, you may be surprised at how details start flooding back when you do this.) Smell your baby's head or one of their hats. Touch your belly, connect with your body. Sway your hips or sit on your birth ball if you still have it. Hop in the shower or the bath if you used water durin